Self-love is a super magical power. Have you tapped into it?
- October 14, 2022
This is a contribution post by Smita Saksena
Self-love means that you accept yourself fully, treat yourself with kindness and respect, and nurture your growth and wellbeing. It is a misconception that self-love is selfish and indulgent. It’s absolutely essential to your mental health and wellbeing.
The importance of practicing self-love is that it deters you from over analyzing and criticizing yourself, which comes as a blessing.
“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.”– Robert Morley
Have you ever felt like someone with flaws and no value at the same time? That’s how I viewed myself for half of my life. If you feel the same too, then take a look in the mirror, and you’ll be able to see the person you were eagerly waiting for, that savior who will arrive and transform your life forever.
Yes, you alone are capable of changing and improving your life
I discovered something really shocking just a few days ago: that I was so bad at taking care of myself. I have a habit of making a list for shopping, achieving my blogging goals, meeting family needs, and other important tasks. And when I looked at the list that day, I discovered that neither my needs nor anything else about me was even near the top. I lacked self-love
Acceptance of the fact that I didn’t care enough for myself left me taken aback
Accepting it was really very hurtful, but this is the harsh reality for many of us: we prioritize everything else that happens around us and care for everyone but not for ourselves. It also brought to my attention the fact that, in the midst of the pressure from those around me, I had completely forgotten all the wonderful and distinctive aspects of myself.
Forgetting to love myself back
The real problem is that I was so preoccupied with caring for everyone else that I forgot to love myself back. Self-love and self-care are crucial. No matter what or how we are, we must unconditionally love and accept ourselves. In this context, self-love refers not only to not loving oneself, but also to respecting and caring for my happiness and well-being.
I decided to prioritize myself and practice self-love
I decided to love and put myself first in everything I did and said, regardless of the circumstance. I chose to let go of all the negativity and fear right then and there as I accepted my “good enough” self. Forgiving myself for my mistakes, messiness, and flaws is something I’ve learned to do.
Since then, I feel good about myself because I am working to keep strong roots of self-respect, self-love, self-awareness, and self-compassion.
Also, it did not happen instantly but took some time. Self-love is a lifelong journey. I no longer live in a state of judgment or compare myself to others. I never fail to use my opinion and voice when I need to speak out against injustice or stand up for what I believe in.
Not only that, but I like to be myself, and the fact that I’m getting better each day makes me happy.
Staying away from negativity
I continue to try to avoid negative and critical people. I believe it is perfectly acceptable for me to occasionally be messy and imperfect, but I am beautiful, blessed, gifted, and sufficient for myself.
I don’t need anyone else to tell me how good, beautiful, or intelligent I am. I could now see that the love, self-assurance, and faith I had always sought were already within me, and that I had been looking for them “out there” rather than “within” myself.
I feel that I am sufficient, and I have sufficient, and that I could truly rediscover my inner strength, happiness, and peace in this blissful realization.
And now, whenever I look in the mirror, I see a woman who is both self-assured and self-loving at the same time. I know that I am sufficient to live and celebrate a blissful life, and I am enjoying this phase of my life.
I promise to prioritize myself over everything and everyone else from this point forward.
I won’t be concerned about whether my actions make other people unhappy.
I’ll say what I’m thinking clearly, calmly, but firmly.
I’ll first listen to my thoughts and feelings, not what other people have to say.
I know that if I put myself first and prioritize my well-being, I will sometimes lose people.
Instead of focusing on making others happy, I’ll choose my own happiness.
Throughout my life, I will never attempt to prove anything to people around me.
As I now know that, while I may not be perfect, I am who I am, and I do not regret being true to myself or others.
I am a strong woman who loves herself and lives happily.
Self-love is the compassion to focus on opportunities, not because “it’s what everyone else is doing” or “that’s what I am supposed to do”, but because they make the best versions of ourselves.
What is your superpower?
Smita Saksena is a blogger, author of three books and mother to a lovely girl. She likes to compose stories, quotes, poetries and blogs on various niche and mostly prefers to advocate for psychological wellness issues and women empowerment. She has worked with renowned online platforms like Momspresso, Women’s Web, Blogchatter, Pratilipi and many more. Additionally, her work got published in Newspapers like Rajasthan Patrika and Gyan Savera and in Magzine like Vanita. Smita is creative mind behind “Roots And Wings By Smita” – her blissful spot to offer her viewpoints. Find her blog here.
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